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If Einstein is correct, there must be a lot of fools out there! Anger is a normal emotion that we all feel from time to time; it is an appropriate response to abuse or some form of injustice. Anger is a warning sign that something is wrong.  Anger can also motivate us to create or change something.  But, if holding onto anger is foolish, as Einstein argues, then why is anger such a prevailing problem?  What are the benefits/payoffs of anger?  McKay and Rogers, in their work, “The Anger Control Workbook” name a number of benefits:

 

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We live in a culture that glorifies business.  Most people find themselves pulled in many different directions, wearing many hats.  It starts at the crack of dawn: alarm goes off, hit snooze two to three times, get up, shower, iron your clothes, get dressed, wake the kids up, make the lunches, wake the kids up again, yell for the kids to get up, go up stairs and get the kids up while trying to stay cool.  Get kids dressed, load them into the car for school, swing through Tim Hortons, drop them off 5 minutes late, and then fight traffic to deal with clients, meetings, and targets.  Race home

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Research has shown that a window of opportunity exists one year prior to marriage, and six months after marriage for couples to receive the most benefit from pre-marital counselling/education. As time passes and stress increases, couples often fall into negative patterns of relating to each other that can be difficult to break without the right skills and tools that pre-marital counselling/education can provide.

Invest In Your Relationship, Not Just Your Wedding

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  1. Avoid what John Gottman calls The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt (i.e. sarcasm, eye rolling), Defensiveness, Stonewalling (e.g. emotional cut off)
  2. Avoid blame. Take responsibility for your own thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
  3. Focus on the positives. We can easily become overwhelmed with the negative in a relationship which then causes us to respond negatively. Even in the midst of a difficult situation, there are still positives. Change only happens when you focus on the positives.
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Every day I have the privilege of listening to people’s stories of struggle and triumph. A story that is becoming more common is the impact of anxiety on people’s lives. For some, its grip cripples lives, destroys their confidence and causes them to isolate from friends, family and even the world. Others may experience anxiety as a constant worry that at times results in a panic attack. And others see anxiety as regular visitor who just won’t seem to get the message and leave town!

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What Are the Signs of Depression?

Below is a list of the common signs of depression:

  • Depressed mood
  • Loss of interest in activities
  • Changes in appetite or weight change
  • Disturbed sleep
  • Changes in activity (speeding up or slowing down)
  • Fatigue or loss of energy
  • Feeling guilty, self-blame
  • Decreased ability to concentrate or make decisions
  • Loss or decrease in libido
  • Thinking about, or planning, suicide or death

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